According to CYFD (Children, Youth and Families Department) : There are twelve alternatives to lashing out at your child. Review them. What works for you? Do these tips/tricks help you better control your anger, or your feelings? Is it okay to yell at your children?
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Sorry, folks. Apparently I dropped the ball or the internet ate my homework. Here’s the missing discussion on Life Skills: Budgeting Continue Reading →
One goal with intentional parenting is to become more connected with our children and more intentional in the words we speak and the things we do. Continue Reading →
Intentional – derives from intent, which derives from what one intends:
Intend: : to plan or want to do (something) : to have (something) in your mind as a purpose or goal
: to plan for or want (someone or something) to do or be something
: to want (something that you control, provide, or have made) to be used for a particular purpose or by a particular person
Intentional parenting then means that you want to parent with a purpose, with an intent, a goal. Intentional parenting is deciding what you want for your children, for yourself as a parent, and for your family as a whole (an entire unit).
What is a parent’s primary responsibility? Is it raising young adults who respect others? Allowing kids to be kids? Instilling trust and integrity in these young people? Is it a lesson from God? Is it a psycho-social benefit of having community? Is it raising a new generation, a next generation?
Determine the purpose of parenting and work towards that goal.
We will discuss setting goals, what kind of goals we should have, and how to reach them. We will also address setting new goals, adjusting for time and age of the children, and helping our children reach adulthood.
So what is your primary purpose of parenting?
Have you heard?
The Five Love Languages identify the way you communicate with individuals in your personal sphere of influence. Go here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ to take the assessment. Come back once you’ve received your results and we’ll discuss each way people communicate, how they listen, and what messages we send in our communications. These love languages can be used with friends, siblings, spouses, and children.
Dr. Chapman’s Personal Anger Assessment helps determine the level of control you have over your anger or your anger has over you. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/anger/
These are just some of the ways we will discover how to improve our own life and communication skills.
As part of the life coach training our staff and/or volunteers undergo, we study mindfulness and being more intentional. Mindfulness – in its simplest form – is intentionally being present or being intentionally present. In the moment, not allowing your mind to wander far from the current event or situation.
Join us as we explore the various opportunities and means we have to intentionally engage and parent our children.
There are many behaviors we can discuss, but we’re going to do it a little differently.
Take your notebook or piece of paper and list 3 behavioral strengths your child has – if you have more than one child, you’ll do this for each child.
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I tell you our younger people REALLY are in sad shape when it comes to manners, respect, how to interact with people in a business and personal manner. I have seen a few that have been taught, then I have seen some that have blown my mind. I sat down tonight a wrote this out knowing it all needed to be said! Lets lay this out.. They are in no order, because they are ALL important!
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According to Jay Adams, there is a 4-step “Biblical” process for change in that there is a need for teaching, conviction, correction and disciplined training (1986). Just as there is a 4-step process for change in a “Christian’s” life, there is also a 4-step process for change in anyone’s life. The teaching is necessary to impart tools for change; when one of our client families come in seeking help, they need to be equipped with proper tools such as work, education, skills and even food for their family. Conviction is their belief that the change is needed, that these tools are necessary. Correction comes when the teachings are implemented, when progress has been made but some slip-ups are expected, and when the heart/person is ready for change, usually following conviction. And finally, disciplined training, which means implementing the successful tools on a daily or situation-by-situation basis until they become habit or instinctual.
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