Stop Temper Tantrums in Their Tracks

“You’re always getting on to me! It’s not fair!”

Staring down my 12 year old, I pause a moment and try to consider where she’s coming from; what she really needs from me. Frustrated, she sighs and stomps off to her room. I wait a moment before following her. Quietly knocking, I open the door when she says “Uh-huh.”

I take a really good look at her and realize she’s in tears. “Oh, honey.” She flies into my arms and sobs against my shoulder. “What’s really going on here, huh?”

She shrugs her shoulders and shakes her head. “I don’t know!”

And it’s true. She doesn’t know what the myriad of emotions she’s feeling mean. She doesn’t know why she’s a raging hormonal almost-teen. Continue Reading →

Resources in Our Library

Book Title
Emotional Intellligence: Relating to Yourself and Others
Prepare/Enrich: Parenting Workbook
We’ve Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication
Time Out for Parents: A Compassionate Approach to Parenting
Emotion Regulation in Children and Adolescents: A Practitioner’s Guide
Case Studies in Child and Adolescent Counseling; 3rd Ed.
Kid Shape: A Practical Prescription for Helping Your Child
The Way They Learn
The Year Round Parent: A Practical Survival Guide
The Five Love Languages of Children
What Mary & Joseph Knew (or didn’t know) About Parenting: Surprising Insights from the Best (and worst) Parents in the Bible
52 Things Kids Need From a Mom: What Mothers Can Do to Make a Lifelong Difference
Development Across the Lifespan, 6th Ed
Modern Girl’s Guide to Motherhood
Guilt-Free Parenting (Christian Guide to): Escaping the “Perfect Parent” Trap
Adolescence
At Risk Youth: A Comprehensive Response for Counselors, Teachers, Psychologists, and Human Service Professionals; 5th Ed.

Parenting Resources and Blogs

Okay, Mama. Okay, Daddy. We’re going to discuss parenting your child with intention. We’ll get there. Before we do, I wanted to provide you with helpful resources. I’d suggest you start with the free temperament sorter. A full report is available for $19.99, but for these purposes, establishing who you are and how you order your world, the free will do nicely. We’ve provided websites that discuss child abuse and online parenting resources. Community resources can (usually) be found at your local health department.

If you feel that you or others around you may cause harm, please call 911 or 1-800-422-4453 – The national child abuse hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD.

This list is not comprehensive. We will come back and add more resources as we find them or they are shared with us.

Child Abuse and Domestic Violence Resources:

Childhelp USA®
SAMHSA’s Children and Families
SAMHSA’s Protection and Advocacy
Questions and Answers about Memories of Childhood Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website
Trauma, Violence & Abuse
Keirsey Temperament Sorter

Online Parenting Resources:

American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry
Developmental Disabilities 
Parenting
Developmental Disorders 

5 Love Languages for Children

Parenting Printables

In the vein of intentional parenting, some blogs to encourage you as you set goals and reach them as a family.

http://www.foreverymom.com/these-10-things-you-dont-owe-your-child-are-totally-spot-on-boom/

 

Parenting Class_Parenting Styles: Balanced Parenting

According to Prepare-Enrich, “a balanced style of parenting tends to be the most healthy because it balances age-appropriate child autonomy and parental control. Independence is encouraged and discipline is consistent and fair. Parenting is warm and nurturing without being overindulgent. According to research, a balanced parenting style is related to the best outcomes for children and teens. Balanced parenting is achieved by balancing closeness and flexibility Take a look at the below suggestions and find out what works for you and your family.

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Parenting Class_Parenting Style Quiz

Today, we’re going to look at parenting styles. We’re providing a quiz and your score. What type of parenting style do you use? Find out by taking this quiz. Answer the questions honestly, based on your beliefs and what you would really say or do, not how you think it “should” be answered. Grab your pen/pencil and your paper or notebook.

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Parenting Class: Basics for Parenting

Parenting Skills Class
***DISCLAIMER***
The following information is free for use and compiled from many sources. Some of these sites and videos link to youtube. While we will do our utmost to ensure the links are active and non-offensive, please be advised to click on links or embedded objects with caution. Ms. Shows is a certified facilitator of the Prepare-Enrich Program, one of the resources utilized. Anyone interested in the P/E program may send an email requesting more information to Ms. Shows at eshows@summitintl.org.

There are many stressors involved with parenting: work and school conflicts, unexpected and/or chronic illnesses, finances, changing family dynamics… even the daily grind can affect the entire family, wearing away little-by-little at each individual. We’re going to address these stressors, behaviors that need addressing from both the parent and the child, and we’re going to discuss the parent’s responsibility to look at child-raising as more than just another job. Our hope is to help you, the parent, engage and connect with your child(ren). So grab a piece of paper (a notebook or a printer and a ream of paper) and a pen, curl up with a good cup of tea or coffee and your computer, and let’s get to work.

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