“You’re always getting on to me! It’s not fair!”
Staring down my 12 year old, I pause a moment and try to consider where she’s coming from; what she really needs from me. Frustrated, she sighs and stomps off to her room. I wait a moment before following her. Quietly knocking, I open the door when she says “Uh-huh.”
I take a really good look at her and realize she’s in tears. “Oh, honey.” She flies into my arms and sobs against my shoulder. “What’s really going on here, huh?”
She shrugs her shoulders and shakes her head. “I don’t know!”
And it’s true. She doesn’t know what the myriad of emotions she’s feeling mean. She doesn’t know why she’s a raging hormonal almost-teen. Continue Reading →
What traditions do your family observe or implement, year after year?
Who makes the turkey at Thanksgiving?
Who puts up the star each year on the tree?
Where do the stockings go?
Who do you celebrate at Christmas time? Continue Reading →
Okay, Mama. Okay, Daddy. We’re going to discuss parenting your child with intention. We’ll get there. Before we do, I wanted to provide you with helpful resources. I’d suggest you start with the free temperament sorter. A full report is available for $19.99, but for these purposes, establishing who you are and how you order your world, the free will do nicely. We’ve provided websites that discuss child abuse and online parenting resources. Community resources can (usually) be found at your local health department.
If you feel that you or others around you may cause harm, please call 911 or 1-800-422-4453 – The national child abuse hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD.
This list is not comprehensive. We will come back and add more resources as we find them or they are shared with us.
Child Abuse and Domestic Violence Resources:
SAMHSA’s Children and Families
SAMHSA’s Protection and Advocacy
Questions and Answers about Memories of Childhood Abuse
The National Domestic Violence Hotline Website
Trauma, Violence & Abuse
Keirsey Temperament Sorter
Online Parenting Resources:
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry
5 Love Languages for Children
In the vein of intentional parenting, some blogs to encourage you as you set goals and reach them as a family.
What are family meetings? Are they important? What do you do in a family meeting? What is the purpose of a family meeting? Continue Reading →
According to Prepare-Enrich, “a balanced style of parenting tends to be the most healthy because it balances age-appropriate child autonomy and parental control. Independence is encouraged and discipline is consistent and fair. Parenting is warm and nurturing without being overindulgent. According to research, a balanced parenting style is related to the best outcomes for children and teens. Balanced parenting is achieved by balancing closeness and flexibility Take a look at the below suggestions and find out what works for you and your family.
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Today, we’re going to look at parenting styles. We’re providing a quiz and your score. What type of parenting style do you use? Find out by taking this quiz. Answer the questions honestly, based on your beliefs and what you would really say or do, not how you think it “should” be answered. Grab your pen/pencil and your paper or notebook.
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Parenting Skills Class
The following information is free for use and compiled from many sources. Some of these sites and videos link to youtube. While we will do our utmost to ensure the links are active and non-offensive, please be advised to click on links or embedded objects with caution. Ms. Shows is a certified facilitator of the Prepare-Enrich Program, one of the resources utilized. Anyone interested in the P/E program may send an email requesting more information to Ms. Shows at email@example.com.
There are many stressors involved with parenting: work and school conflicts, unexpected and/or chronic illnesses, finances, changing family dynamics… even the daily grind can affect the entire family, wearing away little-by-little at each individual. We’re going to address these stressors, behaviors that need addressing from both the parent and the child, and we’re going to discuss the parent’s responsibility to look at child-raising as more than just another job. Our hope is to help you, the parent, engage and connect with your child(ren). So grab a piece of paper (a notebook or a printer and a ream of paper) and a pen, curl up with a good cup of tea or coffee and your computer, and let’s get to work.
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