“You’re always getting on to me! It’s not fair!”
Staring down my 12 year old, I pause a moment and try to consider where she’s coming from; what she really needs from me. Frustrated, she sighs and stomps off to her room. I wait a moment before following her. Quietly knocking, I open the door when she says “Uh-huh.”
I take a really good look at her and realize she’s in tears. “Oh, honey.” She flies into my arms and sobs against my shoulder. “What’s really going on here, huh?”
She shrugs her shoulders and shakes her head. “I don’t know!”
And it’s true. She doesn’t know what the myriad of emotions she’s feeling mean. She doesn’t know why she’s a raging hormonal almost-teen. Continue Reading →
Let your “Yes” be YES, and your “No” be NO.
“Consistency is key”
These “trite” sayings sound so easy – ARE easy to say, but are more challenging to DO.
Let your yes mean YES – you concur. You agree. You permit it to happen. It has your blessing.
Let your no mean NO – absolutely NOT. You do NOT agree. You do not allow or permit it. It does not have your blessing.
How much easier, in life, in relationships, in parenting, to say “Yes” and give in, even though you might actually mean “No” – but you don’t want to argue, or you’re too tired. It is very draining, setting and enforcing boundaries. It truly is. Continue Reading →
Children’s Games as Found on chestofbooks.com
This section is from the book “If You Live with Little Children”, by Carolyn Kauffman and Patricia Farrell. Also available from Amazon: If You Live with Little Children.
The following games are suitable to preschool-aged children, if they are allowed to play them in their own way. Continue Reading →
Come join us on Saturday, December 5th, at 2 p.m. for an ornament decorating party that will find parents with children making memories, building new traditions, and enjoying time together.
RSVP to Youth Shelters’ Emily Peppin at 505-920-2267 or to Emma at LYDIA, Inc. 505-913-7160.
What traditions do your family observe or implement, year after year?
Who makes the turkey at Thanksgiving?
Who puts up the star each year on the tree?
Where do the stockings go?
Who do you celebrate at Christmas time? Continue Reading →
We have a book that was recently donated to LYDIA, called “the Family Album”. Copyright of 1977, compiled by Arthur and Nancy DeMoss. Photos retrieved from https://stocksnap.io/
Working on parenting class materials, I came across this little gem via Pinterest.
For those of you who don’t know what Pinterest is, or Pin, it’s a smorgasbord of goodies to share. Articles, blog posts, activities, books – almost anything you might need or be interested in, it’s there. You simply create a “board” to “pin” your items to (remember corkboards, memory boards, where you [or your mom or aunt] would post favorite memories?) and you can search for terms or just browse other people’s boards. Then you click on “pin” for something you want to add to your own board – something to follow up on, something to read further, something you want to try – let your imagination and “pin”ation take you!
Anyway, I have created several boards for pregnancy/childbirth/baby care, taking care of myself and my family, recipes, blog articles, topics for discussion, outreach, and play therapy, among other things. So I put this one, I think, in the play therapy board.
I’ll add to this post as I find other goodies, but wanted to get you started here:
Read. Enjoy. Use what works for you. Be intentional in connecting with your children. Be intentional in your relationships.
Congratulations, Mama. Congratulations, Daddy. You made it to the weekend. School, camp or daycare is over for the week. It’s time to hang out with your kids, run errands, enjoy friends and family – however you spend your weekend. Continue Reading →
According to CYFD (Children, Youth and Families Department) : There are twelve alternatives to lashing out at your child. Review them. What works for you? Do these tips/tricks help you better control your anger, or your feelings? Is it okay to yell at your children?
What other tips and tricks work for you? Continue Reading →